第25-26节
艾米:梦里飘向你(25)
I had a strange week. A couple of weeks ago, I met him at his house. I liked him a lot then. Last Tuesday, I saw him for the TaiJi practice. I felt a lot for him then. He drove me home. We talked. Then I couldn’t get him out of my mind. So I went ahead emailing him asking him out. We went out yesterday, and it’s not a fairy tale becoming true. He came by, middle aged, balding, short…
I was instantly turned off and remembered telling myself there is no way he is to be my boyfriend. Then we went to a sandwich shop where we talked slowly, I remembered why I liked him in the first place. He’s very easy to talk to and seem to figure a lot of things out.
But I still felt weird going out with him since he’s too old. The oldest I have ever been out with. He was being a gentleman the whole time. He was very easy to hang out and he wasn’t trying to make a pass on me. I watched him wash his truck, then we went to see a movie and afterward dinner. By the dinner time, I felt that I ran out of things to say. I just wasn’t interested in saying anything at all. I rather be alone at that time.I’m just so not used to spend all the time with just one man. I was not capable of telling him what’s on my mind. The date was just too long, a whole 8-hour date. from 2p.m. to 10p.m…way too long for a first date…
就这？
就这。
这么干巴？一点也不浪漫 —
本来就不是什么浪漫的事嘛。
可是直到看电影时，你对他感觉还不错的嘛，说他“侧面的笑容迷人极了” —-
那是在电影院嘛。电影院特殊的灯光，忽明忽暗，此明彼暗，比月光还能藏拙，比高级化妆师还能美化人。看不见头顶，看不见皱纹，看不见身高，看不见小腹，只看见侧面。还有电影本身，爱情片，煽情，让你不自觉地进入一个比实际更美的人工世界 —-
看来电影院产生的印象靠不住。
太极班产生的印象也靠不住。
孤独中产生的印象靠不住。
困难中产生的印象也靠不住。
呵呵，全都靠不住了。其实问题应该出在 DINNER 上， DINNER 时发生了什么？
DINNER ？没发生什么。
不可能吧？
真没发生什么。他让我选餐馆，我说就去意大利餐馆吧，那里情调不错。于是我们去了，从泊车一直到餐馆门口，我特意和他保持距离，匆匆地走在前面，不愿别人以为我们在约会。
餐馆里面确实很温馨，浪漫，放着动听的意大利歌剧。我们在靠厨房的一个位置坐下， 点了菜，上了菜，我们聊了会，但基本都是他在说话。
他说了些什么？
记不清了，都是些鸡毛蒜皮的事。只记得他说他刚到美国来的时候，有次看到个漂亮的女孩在车里，头前前后后地摇。他看了会，觉得很可惜，这么漂亮的女孩，可惜有这个毛病。后来他又看到好多人都那么做，以为这个城市许多人都有这个问题，也许是水有问题还是怎么的，直到有一天他自己开上了车，听着音乐，前后地摇了起来，他才恍然大悟。
SO ？
我听着，很不以为然，这么简单的事，他怎么会不知道？
看来还真是 DINNER 时出的问题。
接下来他又讲了件事，更是让我丈二和尚摸不着头脑。他说他刚来美国时，有次和一个男性朋友去参加一个 party, 去了以后看到大多数都是男的和男的在一起，还有男的坐在男的大腿上。他气坏了，恨不得当时就给那个男的一拳，后来还是忍住了。回到 hotel room, 他让他的朋友睡地板上。
SO ？
敢情以前他们两人睡一张床上的？
就这么两件事就把他在你心目中的印象搞坏了？这没什么嘛， CULTURE SHOCK 而已，一个刚从东方文化进入西方文化的人，自然有很多不懂的东西。你刚来美国的时候，难道不也这么老土？
我？也很老土。
就是嘛，每个人都会有类似经历。我倒觉得他这人很坦诚，说话很低调，没有吹嘘自己，而是讲自己丢人的事，有点自嘲能力 —
其实这两件事本身我并不在乎，不然我会写在日记里。但这两件事 — 却把他从神坛上拉到地面上来了 —-
那倒也是，神怎么会有 CULTURE SHOCK ？
也许把他拉到地面的还不止这两件事，也许他同意约会就把他拉到地面上来了。好像从那时起，他头上的光环就慢慢消散了。
I had a strange week. A couple of weeks ago, I met him at his house. I liked him a lot then. Last Tuesday, I saw him for the TaiJi practice. I felt a lot for him then. He drove me home. We talked. Then I couldn’t get him out of my mind. So I went ahead emailing him asking him out. We went out yesterday, and it’s not a fairy tale becoming true. He came by, middle aged, balding, short…
I was instantly turned off and remembered telling myself there is no way he is to be my boyfriend. Then we went to a sandwich shop where we talked slowly, I remembered why I liked him in the first place. He’s very easy to talk to and seem to figure a lot of things out.
But I still felt weird going out with him since he’s too old. The oldest I have ever been out with. He was being a gentleman the whole time. He was very easy to hang out and he wasn’t trying to make a pass on me. I watched him wash his truck, then we went to see a movie and afterward dinner. By the dinner time, I felt that I ran out of things to say. I just wasn’t interested in saying anything at all. I rather be alone at that time.I’m just so not used to spend all the time with just one man. I was not capable of telling him what’s on my mind. The date was just too long, a whole 8-hour date. from 2p.m. to 10p.m…way too long for a first date…
就这？
就这。
这么干巴？一点也不浪漫 —
本来就不是什么浪漫的事嘛。
可是直到看电影时，你对他感觉还不错的嘛，说他“侧面的笑容迷人极了” —-
那是在电影院嘛。电影院特殊的灯光，忽明忽暗，此明彼暗，比月光还能藏拙，比高级化妆师还能美化人。看不见头顶，看不见皱纹，看不见身高，看不见小腹，只看见侧面。还有电影本身，爱情片，煽情，让你不自觉地进入一个比实际更美的人工世界 —-
看来电影院产生的印象靠不住。
太极班产生的印象也靠不住。
孤独中产生的印象靠不住。
困难中产生的印象也靠不住。
呵呵，全都靠不住了。其实问题应该出在 DINNER 上， DINNER 时发生了什么？
DINNER ？没发生什么。
不可能吧？
真没发生什么。他让我选餐馆，我说就去意大利餐馆吧，那里情调不错。于是我们去了，从泊车一直到餐馆门口，我特意和他保持距离，匆匆地走在前面，不愿别人以为我们在约会。
餐馆里面确实很温馨，浪漫，放着动听的意大利歌剧。我们在靠厨房的一个位置坐下， 点了菜，上了菜，我们聊了会，但基本都是他在说话。
他说了些什么？
记不清了，都是些鸡毛蒜皮的事。只记得他说他刚到美国来的时候，有次看到个漂亮的女孩在车里，头前前后后地摇。他看了会，觉得很可惜，这么漂亮的女孩，可惜有这个毛病。后来他又看到好多人都那么做，以为这个城市许多人都有这个问题，也许是水有问题还是怎么的，直到有一天他自己开上了车，听着音乐，前后地摇了起来，他才恍然大悟。
SO ？
我听着，很不以为然，这么简单的事，他怎么会不知道？
看来还真是 DINNER 时出的问题。
接下来他又讲了件事，更是让我丈二和尚摸不着头脑。他说他刚来美国时，有次和一个男性朋友去参加一个 party, 去了以后看到大多数都是男的和男的在一起，还有男的坐在男的大腿上。他气坏了，恨不得当时就给那个男的一拳，后来还是忍住了。回到 hotel room, 他让他的朋友睡地板上。
SO ？
敢情以前他们两人睡一张床上的？
就这么两件事就把他在你心目中的印象搞坏了？这没什么嘛， CULTURE SHOCK 而已，一个刚从东方文化进入西方文化的人，自然有很多不懂的东西。你刚来美国的时候，难道不也这么老土？
我？也很老土。
就是嘛，每个人都会有类似经历。我倒觉得他这人很坦诚，说话很低调，没有吹嘘自己，而是讲自己丢人的事，有点自嘲能力 —
其实这两件事本身我并不在乎，不然我会写在日记里。但这两件事 — 却把他从神坛上拉到地面上来了 —-
那倒也是，神怎么会有 CULTURE SHOCK ？
也许把他拉到地面的还不止这两件事，也许他同意约会就把他拉到地面上来了。好像从那时起，他头上的光环就慢慢消散了。